“To let go is not to enable,
But to allow learning from natural consequences”
When we make the decision to let go and surrender our teen or adult child, we must be very intentional about stepping back and allowing them to figure things out for themselves. Although it is natural for us to want to save or protect them, it can often be our actions or attitudes that are getting in the way of what God is trying to do in their lives. Remember, we are not their savior . . . He is!
We’ve been “the mom” for so long that we still feel responsible for trying to fix them. We lose ourselves and ruin our other relationships by constantly putting our wayward child first. Although we think we are helping them when we shelter them from facing the consequences of their own decisions and actions, we are actually slowing down their development and prolonging the pain in our own lives.
When we learn to surrender our children, we give them the independence they need so they can be motivated by God instead of by our constant interference. We also gain freedom from the emotional roller coaster ride because our emotional state is no longer reliant on our child’s actions.
In a Hurting Moms support group, we learn how to let go and trust God with our children. We share our deepest pain with other moms who totally understand what we are feeling and together we journey toward hope and healing.
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Yes. This is where I am. Financially enabling my 32 year old son
Have a son I lost 6 years a go I seen him and then 1/2 hr later he was dead still in shock I think then I have one more son he has such struggles with retaliation ships a child is involved not a good realation ship lot of dangers signs that I have seen it’s hard my husband is not supportive can’t talk with him so I find of a lone prossesing this it’s hard
So sorry for your pain. Have you joined the hurting moms group?