“To let go is to admit powerlessness,
Which means the outcome is not in my hands.”

Admitting that we are powerless is the beginning of moving away from our pain. We have tried for a long time to fix and control our child but eventually we recognize and admit that no matter what we do, it isn’t working.

Step One of the Twelve Steps says, “We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.” In some ways we have become addicted to and consumed with trying to fix our child. So much so that everything else in our lives has been neglected and come to a standstill. Our jobs, our marriages, our relationships with our other children, our finances, and our health have been sacrificed to the point that our entire lives seem to be out of control and unmanageable.

But, the good news is found in Step Two that says, “We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” We don’t have to allow defeat to take over and define us. We have hope that we can have peace and joy again. We have hope that our lives will reflect the goodness that we have been promised through Jesus Christ. He is the greater power who will help us to let go of our children. He is the one who will work not only in our lives to restore what we have lost, but He will work in the lives of our children because He loves them even more than we do.