“SHAME”…
Have you ever wished you could slip through a crack in the floor when your friends, neighbors, or co-workers start talking about their kids? Why does it always seem as though everyone else has perfect kids? I can remember listening to my friends talking about what colleges their children were headed to when my own daughter had just dropped out of high school. I would cringe as I prayed that I would not be asked about my child. I felt embarrassed and disgraced. It seemed as though I was the only one who had a child that was out of control and I wanted to hide because I was ashamed.
Shame is a painful feeling concerning how we appear to others and it doesn’t always mean we have done something wrong. Shame tells us that we are undeserving of anything good and it neither encourages us nor does it give us the desire or motivation to change our behavior.
There are many places in scripture that tell us that through Jesus we no longer have to live in shame. Romans 10:11, says, “Anyone who trusts in Him will never be put to shame.” And in Psalm 34:5, we are told, “Those who look to Him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.”
While God is prepared to support us in our pain, He does not intend for us to remain locked into it indefinitely. He has something better for us and we must open ourselves up to Him and let Him come close so that His presence can comfort and strengthen us. He knows our minds and our hearts, and He empathizes with us over our children, who are also His children. We can rest assured that He has us and them in the palm of His hand.
Learning to surrender our kids while moving away from the shame that we have endured for such a long time is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. But, if we will make a conscious effort to “let go and let God” on a daily, hourly, or even moment by moment basis, we will eventually realize the peace and freedom we have been seeking.
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